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Post by twine on Jun 4, 2010 10:23:33 GMT -6
Can it be considered harassment if you ask a girl you work with out for dinner and/or drinks?
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Post by NOTTHOR on Jun 4, 2010 10:33:47 GMT -6
Do not do it. Best case scenario, she says no and is cool about it. Slightly worse case scenario is she says yes and you wind up married. Slightly worse case scenario than that is she says no and finds you creepy and reports you to HR every time you look at her. Absolute worst case scenario is she says yes, you go out for a month, break up and you have a bunch of awkward moments at work, she gets a restraining order and you are toast and then she tells everyone you have an acute case of micropenis.
I can't see one good scenario happening by you asking her out.
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Post by TBELL on Jun 4, 2010 10:47:06 GMT -6
As long as you don't grab her on the ass cheek and take a deep breath in while saying "Ohhhhhh yeah" after you ask her out, I don't think its a problem.
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Post by twine on Jun 4, 2010 10:57:30 GMT -6
Well, I already asked. Then she didn't reply so I asked her not to report me to HR. She said she wasn't planning on it but didn't say if she wanted to have drinks/dinner or not. It's not looking too promising at the moment, she's pretty hot and maybe out of my league (not on an intellectual level, of course) but I figured you can't hit a homer if you don't step up to the plate and swing.
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Post by lpcalihawk on Jun 4, 2010 11:01:09 GMT -6
I had 2 workplace relationships. One turned out to be purely sexual (Friends with benefits) and was good for about 4 months. The other ended up in a 3 year relationship that included living together. There were solid moments in each, but overall I think being with someone who works at a different place has its benefits.
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Post by Stukat on Jun 4, 2010 11:19:21 GMT -6
The way sexual harrasment in the workplace was explained to me was in order for it to be harrassment it has to be repeated, and the individual that may be the subject of the harrassement would need to make a request for the behavior to stop. (of course this doesnt apply to butt slapping or heavy breathing, that shit is harrasment)
So a simple request to hang out and have drinks is fine. If she says no, and you ask her again, your still in the clear but pushing it. If you ask her a third time you are probably harrassing her in one way or the other.
If you have the balls to ask her out, i say go for it. And enough with this out of your league bullshit. There is no such thing as a women that is out of your league.
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Post by thunderhawk on Jun 4, 2010 11:26:13 GMT -6
It just isn't worth the trouble, as you are discovering.
Plus, she's probably a real bitch too.
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Post by twine on Jun 4, 2010 11:34:27 GMT -6
I guess she has a boyfriend already, dumb bitch. I really shouldn't be interested in her, she went to see Middle Aged Shallow Sluts in the City 2 so she's probably pretty fucking stupid. That show proves that most women want to marry some rich douchebag and go shopping for expensive clothes all the time. Makes me sick.
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Post by NotMyKid on Jun 4, 2010 15:24:40 GMT -6
I had 2 workplace relationships. One turned out to be purely sexual (Friends with benefits) and was good for about 4 months. The other ended up in a 3 year relationship that included living together. There were solid moments in each, but overall I think being with someone who works at a different place has its benefits. I worked as a server/bartender in college (and later as a manager after I graduated and didn't know what the fuck I wanted to do with my life) It was the single greatest thing for my sex life and later my life in general. I had plenty of Friends with benefits relationships (and when I say plenty like 8-10) none of them turned out bad other then the crazy bitch that said she was pregnant with my kid (she wasn't pregnant) I became friends with my future wife (not one of the 8-10) and couldn't be happier. On a side note my roommate from college is also married to a girl that worked at the same restaurant, he met her through me when I was working there (again not one of the 8-10 ;D) Like others have said it's all about what you do after the fact. Simply asking someone out isn't going to get you in trouble unless the company has a strict policy against it but harassing them about it after they say no or blow you off is where you get into trouble. Keep swinging, you will get a belt high fastball one of these days. |
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Post by Gumbyhawk on Jun 4, 2010 18:03:55 GMT -6
so I asked her not to report me to HR Please tell us this was sarcasm, twine. Lie if you must. |
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Post by twine on Jun 4, 2010 18:20:57 GMT -6
so I asked her not to report me to HR Please tell us this was sarcasm, twine. Lie if you must. Yes, t'was sarcasm, if I were worried about whorl reporting to HR I wouldn't of said shit to her. |
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Post by MoHawk on Jun 4, 2010 19:32:42 GMT -6
My wife went to go see the movie you mentioned Twine. More because she felt as a fan of the franchise she needed to...and she did not like the film.
As far as asking out a chick that you work with, if she says no...no harm, no foul. Asking once isn't harrasment IMO
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Post by hawkeyedug on Jun 4, 2010 22:46:03 GMT -6
My domestic partner is going to the movie, but she knows it is going to suck but "has to" go because she is retarded over the series. She has been watching at least a couple of episodes per night for about a month now. I couldn't tell you how many times she has watched those DVDs.
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Post by Saggitariutt Jefferspin (ith) on Jun 5, 2010 6:44:01 GMT -6
My domestic partner is going to the movie, but she knows it is going to suck but "has to" go because she is retarded over the series. Thankfully my wife doesn't watch sluts in the city...but ladies that I hear going say the same thing - they HAVE to. Are they in some way endebted to horse face and her whore friends? Is it a cult?? I don't understand it... |
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Post by MoHawk on Jun 5, 2010 10:40:08 GMT -6
Think of it this way. How many of us dudes went and saw the three Star Wars Prequels because we "had" to. Same thing. Sense of loyalty I suppose. I don't begrudge her wallowing in stuff like that every now and then. I'm certainly not above shutting my brain off for two hours and just being entertained.
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Post by NOTTHOR on Jun 5, 2010 14:25:28 GMT -6
Think of it this way. How many of us dudes went and saw the three Star Wars Prequels because we "had" to. Same thing. Sense of loyalty I suppose. I don't begrudge her wallowing in stuff like that every now and then. I'm certainly not above shutting my brain off for two hours and just being entertained. Bullshit comparison. The Star Wars movies tell one of the greatest fictional stories EVER told. EVER. Sluts in the City is just a bunch of bullshit about a few busted old skanks. |
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Post by Saggitariutt Jefferspin (ith) on Jun 5, 2010 16:59:26 GMT -6
Star Wars sucks. Way overrated.
*ducks and covers for impending shit storm*
Seriously though, never really saw the appeal...of course I'm not a fan of sci-fi in any regard, really.
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Post by Gumbyhawk on Jun 5, 2010 17:46:41 GMT -6
Star Wars sucks. Way overrated. *ducks and covers for impending shit storm* Seriously though, never really saw the appeal...of course I'm not a fan of sci-fi in any regard, really. +1 on the prequels. Well okay, I guess I'm not really qualified to say since I only saw the first prequel and said "that's it! I'm done". Never regretted it. I do also think Star Wars jumped the shark long before the prequels came out. |
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Post by hawkeyedug on Jun 6, 2010 16:55:41 GMT -6
Star Wars sucks. Way overrated. *ducks and covers for impending shit storm* Seriously though, never really saw the appeal...of course I'm not a fan of sci-fi in any regard, really. Couldn't say, I've never seen any of the Star Wars movies. |
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Post by Gumbyhawk on Jun 7, 2010 17:55:35 GMT -6
Star Wars sucks. Way overrated. *ducks and covers for impending shit storm* Seriously though, never really saw the appeal...of course I'm not a fan of sci-fi in any regard, really. Couldn't say, I've never seen any of the Star Wars movies. Don't bother. At this point, it's not worth the investment of time. |
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Post by twine on Jun 8, 2010 8:40:53 GMT -6
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I like Star Wars. The one with Jar Jar sucked and the guy that played Anakin was a horrible actor but the movies have great special effects and the story is enjoyable.
If you guys want to watch someone humorously rip on the prequels check out this series of videos.
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Post by Gumbyhawk on Jun 8, 2010 19:05:01 GMT -6
Story and special effects, okay. But the dialogue is so cheesy, it's distractingly bad. Every one of them.
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Post by TBELL on Jun 9, 2010 0:59:58 GMT -6
Star Wars sucks. Way overrated. *ducks and covers for impending shit storm* Seriously though, never really saw the appeal...of course I'm not a fan of sci-fi in any regard, really. +1 sir. I never saw the appeal either, and never got into it at all. |
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